An Exercise Well Worth Joining In On
Few things are sadder than the death of a child. Thank God, Cheryl and I had the joy of raising our kids into adulthood. In fact, there hasn’t yet been a death of a child anywhere in our immediate family—again, thank God. (Though some have experienced the equal agony of miscarriages.) Every morning I get a lot of notices on my Blackberry. They come from a variety of sources. I ignore most of them, but today one of my regular Google Alerts caught my attention. It announced, “ A Worldwide Candle Lighting to Memorialize Children Gone Too Soon,” to take place Sunday, December 14. It’s sponsored by The Compassionate Friends. (I haven’t googled them yet, so if they turn out to be some bizarre death cult, please ignore the reference and deal with the principle at question!)
A Candle Lighting for children who have passed on–what a noble exercise! What a thoughtful, compassionate and healthy thing for our society to do. Children not only have the same innate value as every other human being, but there is something more to them. As my 79-year old father recently observed, everyone fusses over babies—even gushes over them—because they represent something of enormous value to us: our own perpetuity. They are the next generation, the continuation of the species, the fulfillment of God’s edict to Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.”
And there’s still more to kids. Jesus Christ said, “Of such is the kingdom of Heaven.” Why would heaven be populated with “child-like” occupants? Because childhood has universally represented innocence. Except in the most unusual of circumstances, children are, at their core, good. (OK, I can hear my Evangelical, Fundamentalist—and especially Reformed–friends preparing a challenge to me based on original sin, the sinful nature and total depravity—but hold on just a moment longer before you launch it!)
I’m not speaking here of our theoretical status, vis-à-vis, God’s holiness and our sinfulness. Nor am I suggesting children are in no need of the Savior—they most certainly are—as are all humans. I’m talking about what they represent to us: Innocence, nievety, trust, dependence, and goodness. In children there is an absence of guile, cynicism and suspicion. Only in the most exceptional and unthinkable of situations is this not the case, and when it is, it is so much sadder.
Remember how Christ brought children to his lap to teach one of the greatest lessons on salvation. Unless we become like them, he admonished, we will never see Heaven. Children illustrate simple faith to us—and faith is the key to the salvation of our souls.
If everything with “The Compassionate Friends” turns out to what it appears to be, I’ll join in this Candle Lighting on December 14. But I’ll be lighting my candle for the most forgotten “children gone too soon,” those who never took their first breath—the aborted. Aborted children are twice lost: They are certainly gone too soon, but they are also rarely mourned. Most are unceremoniously discarded like so much trash. Their death certificates are anonymously inscribed, “Baby Doe,” or “no name,” or something worse, like “n/a.”
Almost never does anyone gather around a tiny casket or carry a teddy bear to their gravesides. Many of these lost children are bagged-up and tossed into dumpsters or incinerators. With the morning-after pill and RU486, children are more and more simply flushed away.
Oh, I’ll light a candle on December 14—for the precious cherubs taken by diseases; taken by accidents; taken by war; taken by starvation; taken by murder and taken by abortion. I will mourn their loss because it is as much ours as it is theirs.
To find out more about Worldwide Candle Lighting Sunday, go to www.compassionatefriends.org.
To watch my appearance on Larry King Live to reflect on the tragic shooting deaths of the Amish children in a Pennsylvania schoolhouse, click here.
To learn about our upcoming National Memorial for the Pre-born and their Mothers and Fathers—a sacred remembrance of children lost to abortion and a celebration of God’s gift of life, click here.
